According to one 2006 report, 44% of women and 31% of men feel increased stress from the holidays. At least sometimes, a further 68% of us will feel fatigued, 36% will feel sadness, and 26% of us will feel loneliness. The holidays are clearly a mixed bag for some.

According to Plymouth psychotherapist Dr. Regina Bosinger Kelly, "This is the time of year when (people) feel like they 'should' be happy but instead feel extremely stressed or very sad." She explains that money, holiday schedules, familial separation, illness, and loss/grief are among the "many reasons people may feel stressed or sad."

"How will it be if they are the one to not be with their sons or daughters? A family member may live too far to come home for the holidays or may be serving their country and unable to leave. There are others who are facing an illness either themselves or a friend or family member. And this time of year is very difficult for those who have lost a partner through divorce or death, or a family member or dear friend throughout the year."

Dr. Kelly offers the following suggestions to help get yourself through the holidays:

Slow Down
Taking time out to slow down a bit and really think about the meaning of the holidays and how to help children understand why it is important to give to others and to help those in need.

Maintain Good Habits
Eat and drink reasonably and exercise regularly…get outside for a walk or go to the gym.

Socialize
Talk with friends and family members with whom you're comfortable. It can really help you not to feel alone and enjoy fun times and good conversations.

Nurture Yourself
Find a way to nurture your spiritual self by meditating or praying or attending a church service. Reading an inspirational book can do wonders to decrease stress and increase positive feelings.

Show Compassion
We know that having compassion for others and reaching out with kindness helps both recipients and benefactors to feel happier inside. Ask someone to dinner that is living alone or deliver food baskets to those in need, call a shut-in, etc.

Keep A Journal
Keep a gratitude journal to remind yourself of what you have to be thankful for even if it isn't everything you might want.

Share a Laugh
Of course a good laugh and some humor is always a welcome relief to any stress we may be feeling. Watch a DVD, read a book, look up comedy shows online, spend some time with that funny friend.

The most important things is to act! If you are experiencing a great deal of sadness, depression or anxiety, make sure you let someone know who can help. Talking with a close friend, a family member, or contact your medical or mental health provider. It is important to take good care of yourself by being kind to yourself and getting the support and care you need.

► 2006 Holiday Stress Report
► 25 Ways to Find Joy and Balance During the Holidays  (WebMD)